Circle.3

I know it is possible to learn from pain. Pain has different forms. It can be a disease. A relationship with a person in one’s life. A memory. Realisation of the ugly reality. Injustice in systems and monsters of “humanity”. Heartbreak. Hopelessness. Good things may come with pain. Sometimes pain is a necessity.

Every creature alive has experienced pain in a way or another. Pain can be used to do lots of things.

The influence of pain over a living being can never be as strong as any form of love. Receiving love feels like listening to beautiful music, enjoying oneself. Giving love is like making music: the more you love the better you are at it. I wonder what happens when two people sit across each other and make music to each other. How it’d sound like? Would it be in harmony in each case or would there be ones who cannot match their partners: either surpassing them or fall behind their tempo? Maybe there’d be cases when two makes their own music yet cannot her one and other. Yet I believe, the most inexperienced form of expression is still worth noticing. No one masters their music in first try.

Though it is true that some are born talented. For some it is easy to express what they have in their heart and mind whereas some may find it hard to understand what they feel and think and express what they are experiencing.

Emotions make us alike. What causes the sensations differ in every case. But if you go and ask every person alive to think of sweetness and bitterness, you’ll see each has their own answer. We, as a species, are blessed with this variation of opinions.

Culture and personality enable us to have this variation. Whereas human nature makes us all feel the pain and love. The most primitive traits we have, makes us all the same. However, our curiosity is also universal, not one human baby grew up on this earth without asking questions. The ones keep questioning and seek the answers, no matter their culture or personality, helped us as a species to grow stronger. Though “curiosity killed the cat”, in long run, it taught all kitties how to be the most advanced predator. Not so different with humankind or any other species.

What I learnt in a year is, any feeling can be explained with logic. Yet, not always we are able to connect the dots. I can’t see what is happening inside by being inside. I need another perspective. Perspective is either when someone else’s point of view -which requires courage to hear the criticism- or changing one’s own positioning -which requires courage to explore new options and examine the old habits-.  

Change is not easy when we are aware of the purpose. Things will change, no matter what our concern is. I hope everything, and myself, will change to grow stronger.